Gios Dating Advice
Dating Advice, Relationship Advice and Tips

At times, we allow ourselves to be so concerned with the things others do or say about us that we forget the opportunity we are presented with. With every event presents a window…a window that opens up just enough for us to exploit in which we please. The most important thing is that we remain in control of us so that we are in a better place to realize this window and the impact it allows us to make in that very moment. Click on the video below as I share an experience that I hope we all can benefit from.

See, the power of a positive reaction opens the eyes of those that know not why they do the things they do. At the end of the day, no one ever hated the good that they were aware of. We live in a society where we are in fear of the unknown, fearing differences instead of embracing what allows us all to be so unique. We speak of others as “weird” instead of accepting ones individual beauty. I believe that those who have failed to accept others around them, have yet to accept themselves. I believe that those who allow the noise of the world to affect them, have yet to quiet the noise within, in turn, stripping them form the opportunity of experiencing and influencing others with the power of a positive reaction.

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The enemy is one that takes rather than gives. The enemy is one that destroys rather than builds. The enemy is one that offers hostility rather than kindness. The enemy is noise rather than peace. The enemy is one that harms rather than heals. The enemy…is you.

We’ve been brought up in a society that has placed many different types of definitions on words, actions, and thoughts that has shaped our views and opinions so drastically that we have failed to differentiate our true views from those of this world. We continue to unintentionally “create” our own enemies based on these definitions. See, with these borrowed thoughts in mind, we’ve placed so much of our attention on “the enemy” around us, that we’ve created the enemy within.

The truth is, the moment you have established the true love within, the noise of the outside decipitates…slowly vanishing as if it never existed. Only then will you realize that the enemy is one that believes that they are stoppable. The enemy is one that surrenders their own strength, power, and beauty. The enemy is one that blames others for their lack of achievements and accomplishments. The enemy is one that owns, but yet, denies ownership. The enemy is one that looks in the mirror, only to find anything less than great. The enemy is one that has failed to realize that the true enemy that could ever exist…is you.

I met the most amazing person in my world not too long ago. The crazy thing about it is…I’ve “known” this person from the very day I was born. It is for this reason I give thanks everyday for such an opportunity of reintroducing myself to…ME.

We live in a society that tends to create our beings from a very young age. That’s right, we’re programmed to feel a certain way based on a current event, based on what people say to us, or about us. Almost seems like a mission just to get a glimpse of sunshine under this regime. So comfortable in our ways, we continue to tell ourselves, “I’ll try, but it won’t be easy.” We actually make ourselves believe that being happy is a hard task to achieve. The truth is, it’s just as easy as snapping your fingers. It all comes down to one simple question, “How bad do you really want it?”

One thing I came to find out is that when you truly want to be happy, you come to realize that problems are nonexistent. You are no longer disappointed for not getting hired, rather, grateful to have been considered. You no longer view others around you as weird, rather, grateful for their unique contributions to this world. It wasn’t until I truly wanted to be happy, that I experienced the beauty in everyone around me, realizing how attractive our differences were. I actually came to realize how boring this world would be if it were filled with me. It’s the different colors in a rainbow that enables it to amaze us, therefore, the many different people that allow this world to shine.

As soon as we take control of ourselves and come to realize our inner beauty as individuals instead of how we fit in this world, we gain the key to recreating ourselves as true. We no longer worry about how we appear to the world; rather, we continue to shine our lights as contributors just by living a life we choose. The trends represented through the media no longer forces us to adapt, for we’ve come to embrace our inner differences that we so long for the world to accept.

We’ve cried out to the world for acceptance as we continue to hide, not knowing that the sooner we accept ourselves, the broader our views on this world becomes. The sooner we build the relationship within, the more beauty we’ll find in our everyday lives. It’s not about what the day brings to us, it’s about what we bring to it. Remember, you view yourself a loser, you will have lost without an attempt. You view yourself a winner, no event can prove otherwise. Like my friend Danielle once said, “You need to know who you are, or else they will tell you.”

Why is it we feel as if a void exists inside of us when we are single? Why do we drown ourselves in pure sadness at the thought of being alone? Why do we continue to overwhelm ourselves with the ticking of “the clock?” I’m pretty sure I could ask these questions all day long without receiving a clear response.

It seems like the need to find that special someone has completely knocked us off our natural path of connection. We search without having a clue of what it is we are looking for. What we find, mirrors our current state…confusion, for we continue to amass with hopes of luckily gaining the unknown. How many of you know someone that has claimed to know exactly what they wanted, found it, only to realize that that person just wasn’t it? Better yet, how many of you know someone that continues to commit to a relationship that doesn’t serve them, barricaded by the fear of being alone? I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen sequels of it.

I’ve seen the need to find that special someone lead us back to what was already once doomed, claiming we have no where else to go. But why? Are we really unable to live without this person or do we truly believe that we are unable to do better? The truth is, the need to find that special someone has completely overshadowed the need to finding the special in us. See, we continue to look for in others the things in which we fail to bring ourselves. Think about it for a minute. If you owned a car that appeared neglected, how do you think someone that borrowed it from you would treat it? I doubt that they’d put any more value on it than you have, that’s for sure.

With that being said, is the need to finding that special someone overshadowing the need of finding that specialness within? Are you looking for someone that can provide you with the things you should already possess? It seems like we continue to search for someone to love that person we continue to hate.

We so intensely search to be completed by that special someone that we fail to acknowledge our true value and the power within. I tell you this, before you look to be embraced by another soul, make sure you’ve already been embraced…by you…first. Before you get caught up in the need to finding that special someone, make sure you’ve explored the special in you. In reality, someone will only accept you to the extent that you’ve already accepted yourself. Smile…and witness the world smiling back. Accept you…and receive a passage to acceptance by the many people you encounter. Love…and experience the love of many pouring in