May 10
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Dating Rules
According to Dictionary.com, a rule is a principle or regulation governing conduct, action, procedure, arrangement, etc. Everyone knows that rules are made in order to prevent certain actions and if broken, there always seems to be consequences. Because of the sometimes harsh punishments society has created, we all are a little set back by these rules and before involving ourselves in an event we look to find out the rules and regulations as to prevent any repercussions.
Dating is made to be enjoyed. The reason that we chose to date is so that we have someone to share our lives with. We want someone to share our joy with and we our burdens, making them lighter. We all want that one person that can put us first in their lives so that we can feel special. If that’s really the case, why the dating rules?
Now I know you’ve read many dating rules and may agree with them, but I really believe that these rules tend to just complicate things. It makes dating sound more like a job instead of something of pleasure and excitement. Because I feel this way, I’ve taken the time to come up with dating rules that I feel can make our dating lives more enjoyable and reassuring. I call it the 4Cs:
1. Cherish: As defined by dictionary.com: To treat with affection and tenderness; hold dear. We all have things in our lives that we cherish, don’t we? It’s a proven fact that when we cherish something or in this matter, someone, we take good care of that person. We do everything we can to preserve them so that they are not harmed in any way. I guess it’s safe for me to say that, when it comes to dating, we all have a responsibility to protect the heart of our mates. The minute we enter a relationship, we sign a contract to their heart, promising to never bring any sort of pain that will in turn harm them.
2. Comfort: Comfort is the act of making someone feel comfortable and as a partner we hold that responsibility. There are many ways to make someone feel comfortable. One way is by making yourself approachable so that someone can freely come to you when in need of help. Another way is by putting your partner first so that they not only know, but feel that they are the only one. Always be truthful in order to keep from doubting.
3. Care: We make a decision to date someone because we find something in that person that we like and with time we come to care for that person. When you care for someone, you don’t want anything bad to happen to them, so you protect them. As a partner, you hold the responsibility of protecting one thing; and that’s your partner’s heart. When you care, you can never bare to see your partner, sad, hurt, or cry so it would be right to guard them like you guard your own.
4. Commit: Always remember that when we decide to be with someone, we automatically commit to just that one person. There was something in that person that made you choose them among many. Do what takes to keep them. Never lie, never cheat!
My dating rules are pretty simple, that is, to those that take dating really seriously. It should never be hard to treat your mate with the respect that they deserve. With these simple rules, you’re able to experience a successful relationship and whatever may happen, you can always say: “I did the best I could.” How reassuring is that!
