Question from Melanie, Canada
Q:Hi! Ok so, at the end of the last school year, at the Country Ball, my crush asked me to dance with him. It was so sweet. He was shy, held my hand, brought me to the dance floor, and we were very close while dancing. He also told me I smelled good. Then, we didn’t really see each other afterwards. We were both really busy, and since all our activities were done, we didn’t cross paths at school. Usually we are on the student council together, sport teams, etc. Then, the day after school was over, at the grade 12 prom, I was volunteering and he was the pianist. His parents are teachers so he had to stay late, as did I to clean up. While I was waiting for my parents, he came and said hi, we chatted for a while, then they arrived so I left. This year, I constantly find him staring at me. His locker is right behind mine, we are on the student council together, his best-friends are my close friends, we play the same sports (but not team, hes on the guys team, I’m on the girls team, lol)… So you can see that there are many opportunities for me to talk to him and I see him a lot. And I’m not really shy. We are good friends. I think he’s into me, but just a little shy. How do I tell him that YES, I like him, sort of thing. Should I tell him I enjoyed the ball last year (even if its been a while). When and where should I tell him? what should I tell him? Should I even tell him? LOL I need some advice, please and thank you! God Bless.
A: I would love to help you in telling this young man that you like him, but the truth is, that isn’t where your problem lies. See, as a man with great faith, I believe that you have no problem whatsoever in expressing yourself. The fact is, there is a fear that is present, preventing you from expressing yourself. Sometimes we choose not to act because of an unwanted prediction we’ve already played out in our minds. We use our minds as a DVR, playing an event that has yet to present itself. I believe that the truth should always be set free. We spend too much time focusing on the outcome of our actions instead of focusing on the action itself and what it means to us. Remember, not every battle is made to be won, but every battle fought should always be a meaningful won. I always say, if I’d ever choose to regret, I’d choose to regret the things done, then the things undone because the past could never be replayed. At the end of the day, all you’re left with is…”I wonder what would’ve happened had I….”