What is up with us men nowadays? Why do we wear the clothes we do? Why do we drive the cars we drive? Why do we talk the way we do? It seems like our egos have taken over us and have prevented us from seeing and accepting the truth; our insecurities.
My friend John said it best when he said, “We (men) use material things to make up for what we lack.” Insecure men dealing with women has resulted in many unsuccessful relationships and marriages ending up in divorces. Seems like we depend on these facades to represent us rather than presenting our true selves. Our personal fears of being rejected has pushed us further away from being ourselves.
Some of us men believe that if we are not physically ripped, women will not be attracted to us. Unfortunately, we’ve unconsciously given our power away to the material world. On our journey of being accepted we have forgotten the most important thing; self-acceptance. How can we expect anyone to accept us if we haven’t already accepted ourselves? In other words, how can you sell a product that you don’t believe in?
It’s time we start digging deep within ourselves, embracing who we really are, and falling in love with our being. It’s time we fall in love with the person we want others to fall in love with. It’s time we focus on the things that stay rather than the things that fade.
As we age, we physically change, so depending on what is today may not be as dependable later. But as for what we hold within, no one can take away from us. We forever own that. Only death can stop that side of us from shining.
Because of our insecurities we doubt, we cheat, we accuse, we fake, we abuse…our women. I remember my dad telling me, “Son, you can have any girl you want.” At first, I didn’t understand what my dad meant for I was too stuck on the physical. I figured it was impossible because not every girl would be physically attracted to me. It wasn’t until I had fallen in love with myself that I realized what my dad had said. How can a woman not fall in love with the man that I had already fallen in love with?
If you don’t understand what I mean, then take the time to examine yourselves and ask yourself the following questions: What is it that I have of value? What is it about myself that separates me from the rest? What are my strengths? After answering these questions, own your qualities.
To all of my fellow men out there, it’s time we start taking control over ourselves. It’s time we stop living out of fear. It’s true that the physical attracts, but it takes more than just good looks to keep a woman, and that is the true challenge. Dig deep within yourselves and find that light that shines in you, and let it out….it’s there!