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Families and Living Arrangements noted that there were 12.9 million single parent families in 2006; 10.4 million single mother families and 2.5 million single father families. According to stats, the ...
Aug 11
30
How Do I Get Over My Ex?
We all remember the days when we were inseparable from the one we once loved. It almost seemed like life wouldn’t make any sense without their presence. But, unfortunately, we sometimes find all of these wonderful moments washed away through a break up and no matter what we do to move on, it just doesn’t work. No matter what we do, these memories constantly continue to sneak through, leaving us with one question: “How do I get over my ex?
The truth is, it’s really not as hard as we drag it out to be. We lie to ourselves instead of accepting the truth. See, we figure if we believe a lie, then it will help us get pass the feeling. We figure if we feed ourselves a story, we will grow to believe it, therefore, setting us free. “How do I get over my ex, you ask?” Easy. Accept the truth and rid yourself of all the lies!
We sometimes cloud our minds with a negative picture to escape the wonderful moments, thinking that it will rid the pain. Think about it, it’s not the action that lead to the break up that really hurts us, it’s really the wonderful times that no longer exist that make it hard for us to move on. For example, if your break up was due to infidelity, it is not the cheating that hurts you, it’s the stripping apart of a bond you once cherished that hurts.
The best way to get over your ex is by freeing yourself. How do you free yourself? I remember having a conversation in a hotel room in Palm Springs, California, with a good friend of mine and during our conversation, although I knew that I was done with my ex, I realized that I wasn’t completely over her. Lesson learned? Well, I came to realize that it’s all in the story. I realized that my feelings were based on the story I created. 
Instead of blaming her for the lessons I learned, contributing to my growth, I blamed her for destroying something we invested so much time into building. See, we tend to focus on the negative instead of the positive, but little do we know, that negative thoughts we store stain way more than positive thoughts, if held on to. It’s time to we focus on the gain instead of keying in on the loss.
See, through every given event, is an eye opener, an opportunity for growth. Instead of focusing on what we’ve lost, why not focus the gain, what is we can take away from the situation? I’ve come to realize that anything in that past that isn’t relevant to the present, has no place. Although we are unable to edit the past, we all have the privilege of writing the script to our future. As the writer of your own story, what does your ending look like? Whatever it is, let’s just hope, just like any good movie, that you’ve thrown in that good ol ending we all look forward to.
Jul 11
30
I Want Her…Like…Now
I want her…like…now. I want her like mornings breakfast in order to gather enough energy to start the day. I want her like thoughts that continue to run through my head, helping me forget about yesterday. I want her like the workout that keeps me in shape. I want her like my daily hobby cause God knows that I could never get enough. I want her…like…now.
I want her like noontime’s lunch, small portions, but constantly. I want her like a late night dinner with the candles lit. I want her like the movie that follows, followed by a good nights sleep. I want her like the dreams that keep me busy before the sun rises. I want her…like…now.
I want her as much as she wants me. I want her like the air I consistently breathe…pause, thank God for that! I want her as much as my soul continues to long for her presence; good vibes, pure smiles, I mean, nothing less. I want her as much as I want my newborn child, for it was said that I could never bring one to life without a queen. I want her…like…now.
I want her…I want her…I want her…like…now.
Question from Aggy, Nairobi, kenya
Q: “Is there anyway you can be sure that your man loves you, even if he is a player?”
A: According to the Urban Dictionary, a player is a male who is skilled at manipulating (“playing”) others, and especially at seducing women by pretending to care about them, when in reality they are only interested in sex. With that being said, it all depends on what type of love you are looking for. Are you into the love that fades, or the love that stays? It would be hard for me to believe that you would settle for anything less that what you really deserve and we both know what that is.
When approached by Lillian Ogbogoh, a tremendous speaker and host from BlogTalk radio show called Waking Passions, for an interview, I accepted. How could I ever pass up an opportunity of reaching out to people on matters that concern us all. Lillian Ogbogoh had a series of questions in hand for me to answer. I’ve gone ahead an attached the interview for all of my guest that didn’t get a chance to listen in. Sit back, relax, and don’t forget to click the play button. Enjoy!
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Jul 11
7
I’m Only Human
Many may read my articles and perceive me as being a perfect man. Many may feel that I hold all the answers to their many questions. Many may feel as though I own the right of being “that man,” you know, the one that every other man would do right to learn from. The truth is, I’m only human.
I learn from the world and the people within it. I learn from my deep observations of human interactions. I learn from the ones that do right, and from those that do wrong. I learned and continue to learn so much from my parents. I learn…from me.
I’m a man of many flaws that I’ve come to appreciate. I mean, without these flaws, how could I speak? How could I write? How could I learn? It sometimes frustrates me knowing the man I have the potential to be when I’m living the man I am today. But hey, no need to be too hard on myself. I’ll only continue to improve as much as I continue to listen, learn, and grow. The hardest part is not actually knowing or learning, rather, it’s actually applying the new with that old crap I was brainwashed with. It’s a constant battle, but I must understand that it took about 18 years of my life for them to feed it to me, so I’ll just have to be patient as I want these young ladies to be with myself knowing that the best, is yet to come. With that being said, goodnight Gio. I look forward to meeting a better you tomorrow. Something tells me there’s a lesson to come and an opportunity open for growth. Exploit it!
