We are living in a world where men and women are made to believe that they are “suppose” to be or act a certain way. As men, we’re told to be tough and to show no signs of emotions such as intimacy, sadness, fear, and pain. We’re made to believe that “real men don’t cry,” therefore we hold back tears thinking that it feminizes us. Because of these expectations we’ve become uncomfortable in our own skin, thinking: “Well I can’t do that, because if I do, they’ll think…”, or, “I can’t say this or else I’ll be considered a…”
Who are we? What are we really suppose to be? Because of all these social expectations, we men continue to be insensitive with our young boys, and we have no clue on how to express true love and intimacy towards our women. See, we’re so stuck in our societal ways of thinking that we forget that before we could ever gain the right to be a real man, we must learn how to be real human beings first.
On the other hand, women have been portrayed as weak beings. Because of this way of thinking, women have and continue to be dominated over by, not only the system, but also by the people who are apart of it. Women have lost their voice as their ability to speak has gone unnoticed. Many women are unable to see how valuable they are, settling for less than what they truly deserve. I was taught that men were to “kiss the grounds women walk on,” but it seems like women have come to be the ground that men walk on. Pretty sad, wouldn’t you say?
As a human being, I’ve come to realize how affected we are by these conditions. We’re constantly reminded to follow a certain path, so we forget the way we ought to be. These “handed down” expectations have come to cause major internal battles that we continue to experience till this day. Because of all this confusion, many people have been stripped of their confidence, leaving them close to dry on the self-esteem gauge.
I believe it’s time that we truly start getting to know ourselves and the many things we personally stand for. I believe it’s time we start believing in ourselves and valuing who we are as individuals. I believe it’s time we stop looking for someone to complete us, instead, realizing that we are all complete as individuals, therefore, a connection is the “icing on the cake.”
- Help rebuild self-confidence and self-worth
- Help rid the negative perceptions with positive thinking
- Help build relationship with self
- Help regain love for self
- Help build and maintain relationships with others comfortably
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